Love Language: Time: Spending Time with my Children
My feed post on IG on Valentine’s day talked about what I consider one of my top love language which is time. Spending time with my loved ones doing things they would like to do or going on vacations as a family to be able to spend extended quality time together is one of my ways to show my love for them. In respect to my children, being able to give them the gift of my time at some point of the day is a way for me to love them.
Most day, time is spent playing with them for a while, whether it is 30 minutes or an hour and a half. I will play pickleball or badminton, draw with chalk, ride my bike or throw a ball around. If we are indoors, we will play a board game together or watch a movie. Do I always feel like doing those things? No, but I hope they remember those times fondly when they are older, and they remember me playing with them.
The boys typically do not want to go hiking with, but on this day, I managed to convince them to join me for a little walk at the nearby Indian Mounds. We kept our time short as one of them was still getting over a cold and I only managed to convince 2 out of my 4 boys to come.
When the weather is pleasant and springlike, I just want to be outdoors: case in point, I am writing this blog post in my egg chair covered with a blanket (the egg chair not me) so I can have some shade, but still enjoy being outdoors.
I think my favorite family memories as a child is going on camping trips with my parents and coming back to the US and visiting our extended family.
What would you consider your top love language towards your kids or spouse?
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18 Comments
Joanne
I think as my boys have gotten older my language has become more acts of service since they often aren’t around for spending time with nearly as much but I’ll happily pitch in the do their laundry or proofread a paper, etc. I’ve already got a whole Pinterest board of college care package ideas ready to go for next school year since I won’t be around for time or acts of service.
mimifce
That is neat, Joanne! I do occasionally my teens laundry when he is super busy but sometimes, I feel like it is just spoiling him as he does not have many responsibilities apart from school.
jodie filogomo
The time you spend with your boys is priceless and I’m sure they won’t realize it until they are older.
There’s so much teaching that happens just in our day to day activities!!
Xoxo
Jodie
mimifce
And they are going to have some day to day teaching right now: they’re slacking with their manners!
Maureen
Agreed! Spending time with our children is so important because I know there will come a time when they spread their wings and no longer home. On my end, my son loves it when we spend time together and I love it when he does remember what we did. I spent time with my dad going on dates and trips. They were the best! Now we do them with my son and it’s just amazing to see their bond grow too!
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mimifce
I am kind of glad my kids are years apart so even though one is about to go to college, I have still 3 home and one for quite a while since my youngest is 6.
Nancy
We also love to spend time outdoors in nature. Cycling is our favourite. Unwinding and listening to the sound of birds. It’s energising.
mimifce
Yes, birds singing makes me so happy!
Jennifer
Aww I love this!
Jennifer
Curated by Jennifer
mimifce
Thanks, Jennifer!
Kathrine Eldridge
Love this this is your love language. My love language is attending classical music concerts with them and listening to music with them in the car. Glad you are making the time with them becuase it goes so fast
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mimifce
It does! My hope is that as they grow and become their own person and become adults, that we have a good relationship where they enjoy stopping by and visiting.
Jacqui Berry
My love language is time. Spend time with loved ones be it spouse, siblings, parents or children and grandchildren. I know mine only remember times we had together when they were younger, none remember any gifts really. I also didn’t know what to give my mum for Mother’s Day, she didn’t need anything so I surprised her at the church Mother’s Day service and her face said it all. Your boys will remember the times you spent with them. Well done my friend. Jacqui x
mimifce
Time is important. My husband works a lot but always makes time for regular vacations as a family.
Marsha Banks
My love language is gifts. I know it seems superficial, but I love buying them little gifts to surprise them when they least expect it. I was always very involved in whatever they were in. We spent hours poolside when they swam competitively. We spent so much time in the car traveling to swim meets that we’d sing together and car dance all the way. Every once in a while one of them will mention those car trips! We spent lots and lots of time outside. Your boys will remember these times and lovingly look back at the memories.
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mimifce
That sounds like so much fun and good memories. And little gifts that are surprise always bring pleasure.
Gail
I’m sure your boys will look back fondly on the good times you’ve given them, and the time you spent with them. Most kids are not so lucky nowadays. Thanks for linking!
mimifce
Thanks, Gail!